This year has come with its many lessons and challenges, but if I had to pick one lesson to focus on it would be the art of balance. For over half of the year, I have had to juggle work from home, graduate school, planning a wedding, and going through the home buying process. If all of that sounds like a lot well it is. Have I had a couple of meltdowns in the process? Sure have! All of this has taught me that it’s okay to be emotional or not to be strong all of the time. It’s fine to have a meltdown when you feel like everything around you is crashing down, but it’s how you pick yourself up that really matters. Just make sure once you pick yourself up you describe the entire marathon because in this day in age, with social media, everything looks like you only did a sprint. Let’s normalize the entire journey in 2021.
Planning has gotten me through the chaos that is now my life and I have to be honest with myself that it’s only going to get more hectic in 2021. So far I am expecting to be consumed with grad school work since I am taking 3 classes (9 hours) next semester which will officially make me a full-time student again. I have also been recently promoted at work which means I will be gaining more responsibilities on future projects. I also will be working on all things wedding simultaneously with preparing for the big move. I definitely don’t want to seem like I am complaining whatsoever. I am receiving everything I have ever asked and prayed for plus much much more. I am grateful for every single blessing, BUT it still can feel overwhelming even when you know it’s coming in the form of a blessing. Below are some daily reminders that have kept me going:
- You can only give 100% of your time to one thing at a time. I have to give credit where credit is due. David has said this to me over and over again when I’ve attempted to do too much at once or think I am the Queen of Multi-Tasking. There are some things that truly need your full attention to be done correctly or you will waste time going back to redo them which will waste more time. Stop trying to do it all and just prioritize your top 3-5 tasks of the day. I promise it makes the world of difference!
- Write it down and make it plain. Whenever I feel overwhelmed writing out a to-do list, my goals (for the day or week), or even my vision for my future I suddenly start calming down. It’s something therapeutic about putting pen to paper. My mind relaxes and God shows me the way. So long story short I 10 out of 10 recommend!
- Lastly, ask for help! Don’t think that you have to do everything alone. There is no way I can literally have my hand on every single thing at once, so there are some things that David steps in to handle with our future home, and the same with my Mom stepping in with wedding stuff. Of course, everything gets ran by me before it’s final so I don’t have to worry about FOMO, but I know I’m not superwoman. I can’t be in two places at once and as we discussed in tip #1 multi-tasking isn’t always the solution.
I’m happy to say that I not leaving 2020 the same as I came into it. I’ve experienced growth, change, and evolution like never before. I’ve learned a lot, I’ve conquered a lot, and most of all I’ve made myself proud. Everything is going up in 2021! See ya in the New Year!
